As today ended, the clouds dispersed across the horizon over the Howe Sound; it was so peaceful and bewitching. It is Valentine’s Day and I want to remind you of my life lessons:
· Be yourself – blaze your own trail;
· Celebrate each moment
· Friends, community and family are all that matter
I know in my short time on this beautiful earth I was profoundly loved. I am grateful for being allowed to be my own unique self; that I lived for each moment without being confined and over-protected, and for being able to explore the big wide world with so many wonderful people.
The words ‘I love you’ are so easy to say, but so difficult to define. Every day of my life, each of my actions and all that I am created webs of connection that keep my spirit and memory alive even though I am gone. My mom and dad ache for my dressing up, my creativity, my quiet sense of humour, my independence, my spark…and just my individual presence. If you knew me, you have your own unique memories.
Remember - love is embedded in laundry, in chores, in the ritual of cooking, in overseeing homework, in quirky family interactions, and in all that is mundane in daily life. This love goes deeper and wider than any sparkly Valentines cards, romantic words and expensive gifts. Love is resilient, is always faithful and trustworthy; this is the real love of Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day should really be the deep reflection on the how each family member or friend is uniquely special and loved.
My family has been remarkably borne up by the love of friends, community and family. I am sad I cannot enjoy all the delicious meals that have been provided – so many new tastes and textures. They have been a balm where my family hasn’t had the energy for the daily routines. So many people have reached out and visited, shared cups of tea or have shared their dinner table with my family. So many people have made and given thoughtful and beautiful gifts; written words of deep comfort or have regularly texted or emailed [email protected] or simply reached out saying ‘There are no words’. For love is action, not words. It stretches well beyond the 14th February.
This is real love.
Happy Valentine's Day!